Rachel, the Velveteen Rabbi, says people should be free to choose the names they are known by, online and offline.
Well, we’ve been around this block a few times here at Text Patterns, but as I read that post a little thought experiment occurred to me. Imagine a person who comments regularly on certain blogs under a pseudonym, and writes her own blog under a different pseudonym, and then of course “IRL” or “offline” has an official legal name. Not an especially unusual situation, I imagine, and one that few of us would find upsetting or even noteworthy.
But what if that same person applied the principle of contingent self-naming to her regular in-person social circles? What if she told one group of friends that her name is Carol Watson and another that it is Tamar Weinberg, while at work and to her family she’s known as Jennifer Esposito? Do we have a problem with that? My sense is that most of us would find that kind of creepy — even those of us who find the use of various online names perfectly acceptable. But why? If it’s okay online why wouldn’t it be okay offline? Is there just a residual “yuck factor” there that we ought to dispense with? Or what?
P.S. After writing this and putting it in the queue, I discovered that the estimable Alexis Madrigal has a different take on our expectations for everyday self-identification: “in real life, we expect very few statements to be public, persistent, and attached to your real identity. Basically, only people talking on television or to the media can expect such treatment.” I’m not sure precisely what Alexis has in mind here, but our public identities are attached to a lot of what we do everyday: not just our written and oral exchanges with friends and co-workers, but most of our purchases now that we increasingly use cards rather than cash. More than at any point in human history, the average person’s everyday life is made up of statements and actions that are “public, persistent, and attached to [his or her] real identity.” So in that sense our expectations for online conversation are outliers. The question is whether they should be.)